CURL CONFIDENCE!

Happy Sunday, Lovelies!

Today I want to talk about the three foundations to having complete curl confidence; Embrace it, Explore it, Protect it

EMBRACE IT

First things first, embrace your curls – no matter what condition they are in.

When I was younger, I HATED my hair. Not because it was curly, but because I didn’t know what to do with it. I found myself trying hair products that other people were using, in hopes that my curls would be just as responsive to the same products. I would drench my hair in products that were too heavy for my curls and didn’t suit the natural state of my hair…

Additionally, because I didn’t know what to do with my hair, I became very experimental. From the age of 13, I experimented with dye, texturiser, relaxer and I found myself straightening my hair sometimes up to three times a day. The implications of this, is that I didn’t see my natural hair texture in it’s completely natural state until I was in my early 20s, so almost a decade of damage resulted in me having to learn how to EMBRACE my natural hair all over again, which was super challenging during my transition.

One thing I took from this, is that curly hair is so diverse that no curl pattern is ever the same; not on my own head nor on others. I say this because it’s very easy to get ‘curl envy’ and whilst this might sound a little shallow, I know it’s common as this is something I’ve heard in discussions quite regularly.

The damage that I’d done to my own curls was due to the envy that manifested by admiring others. What resulted in a decade worth of damage, could have easily been avoided had I appreciated, embraced and learnt how to manage my own natural curl texture.

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The beauty of the current curly community, is that many curl patterns are represented which results in girls and women learning to embrace their curls and being equipped with the many different ways in which we can style it and treat it!

EXPLORE IT

Don’t let anyone ever make you think or feel that your curls are one dimensional, there is plenty that you can do with your hair!

So, if you are a frequent reader of my blog you’ll know that I cut my hair into a bob in the New Year, and in doing so I felt liberated and not bound by the length of my curls…I recommend exploring hair styles whether that be cutting it into a particular style, wearing your curls in different ways such as a middle-part, side part, half-up half-down, top bun, protective styling – whatever makes you feel great about your curls, just do it!

I personally find that I style my curls into a side part quite regularly. I like how voluminous my curls look this way, but ultimately it’s my favourite go-to because of how easy it is to create…

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People tend (and when I say people, I’m talking about non-curlies) to create this idea that curly hair is ‘difficult’ when in actual fact it’s really not. Hair routines can be made extremely simple if you master what your curls need. Likewise with hairstyles, discover different styles and have fun with it. Curly hair is extremely versatile and once you explore the many different styles that you feel comfortable with, you’ll embrace your curls more confidently!

PROTECT IT

Protecting our curls is a fundamental step to ensuring we have confidence in our curls.

Say no to excessive heat, chemicals and tight hair styles! A lot of the confidence we have in our curls comes with knowing and seeing our curls are healthy. Unhealthy curls take on the form of straggly, dry and limp tresses which proves our curls haven’t been protected. Unprotected curls tend to lack moisture which causes severe dryness, and what a lot of young girls and women tend to do when this happens, is hide their curls away – I know this because I’ve done this myself!

I use to disguise my curls into a super tight bun, which meant that my curls weren’t getting any air and eventually my curl texture loosened. I did this repetitively and by doing so I created an unhealthy cycle of poor curl management, which caused a delay to the return of health within my curls.

In instances where your curls are over exposed to damage and require some TLC, there are a number of things that you can do to help restore some life into them; Drinking water, deep conditioning, trimming, protective styling and even changing the types of products you use, can increase the health of your curls and ultimately this is the best form of protection. Using myself as an example, I’ve recently chopped my curls and found that in doing so, they’ve become super defined! I also ensure that I deep condition once a week, which tends to be over the weekend as I have more ‘me’ time available…

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I’ve been loving the Shea Moisture Manuka Honey & Mafura Oil Mask lately. I find that it’s intensive hydration instantly makes my hair feel and look healthier. 

In addition to what we do with our curls during the day, it’s just as important we protect them during the night, too. I personally wear a bonnet whilst I’m sleeping; it protects my curls from losing moisture or getting frizzy, and most importantly it doesn’t fall off throughout the night. I find that a silk scarf isn’t as protective because they tend to slip off during the night, and equally to ensure that it doesn’t, I’d have to tie it quite tight which isn’t good for circulation; get yourself a good bonnet, and you’re good to go!

Ultimately, our curl confidence is defined by the way in which we treat our curls, which stems from how we embrace, explore and protect it. Admittedly it took me a while to embrace my own curls, after several attempts at finding the right products and routine. Once that was achieved, I found the manageability of my curls far more easier than I ever have before and that’s because I’m super responsive to the needs of my curls. In embracing my curls, I was quickly reminded just how beautiful my hair is and likewise I see this mirrored by other women and girls who have confidence in their curls, too!

Just remember, the way in which we feel about our curls always starts with ourselves internally first. Begin to adopt the three foundations which I’ve listed above and let me know how you get on!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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