Welcome back, people!
Today’s blog post is dedicated to the struggle…yes, the struggle!
Admittedly, this has been a hard blog post to write but definitely one that I’ve kept coming back to.
The ‘struggle’ is something we’ve all been through. It comes in many different forms and has a variety of ways of impacting us, but never-the-less the struggle has a way of forming you into a better and stronger version of yourself.
When you’re going through it, it may seem like the path ahead is completely blurred by the endless obstacles that lie in front of you. In those circumstances, don’t be swayed or disheartened by that. Believe me, I know it’s a lot easier said than done…but inevitably the moment or ‘struggle’ you are dealing with has an expiration date and one which you have the ability to control, too.
What I mean by that in the simplest of terms is that, we have the ability to control and change our circumstances. We have the opportunity to allow our struggles to strengthen us and make us the best versions of ourselves. Likewise, we also have the ability to allow our struggles to defeat us-Don’t allow it to defeat you!
Whatever your struggle is, whether a personal battle, work or academic related issue, find a way to power through it. As I’ve done in previous posts, I like to set out simple steps on how to achieve this…so either help yourself by referring to a previous post, or perhaps the below questions can help you to identify some of your struggles and ‘problem areas’ and essentially re-direct you onto the path of strength and success.
What does your current struggle look like?
The first initial stage of ‘struggle’ is probably identifying exactly what it is, what it looks like and in what ways is it impacting your life for it even to be a ‘struggle’ in the first place.
Often or not, our struggles are placed in our lives to affect us. Literally to the point where we are forced to change our lives, our routines, our habits…whatever it is, a struggle is meant to be something which impacts you so much so, that you are forced to make a change. Don’t ignore this. Let it be something that you recognise, as the earlier you do this, the less forceful the impact will be on your life.
How can your struggles help you?
I’m sure someone is reading this and thinking, “How can your struggle possibly help you?!” Trust me…they have their ways!
Embrace it. Understand it. Allow it to do what it’s meant to do. Often you’ll find that a struggle is formed by some kind of ‘lacking’ in your life. It may be that you are channelling energy into an area of your life which no longer serves you. By drilling further energy into it and essentially ‘failing’ in that area of your life, you’re forced into an introduction with your struggle. Your struggle in these kinds of circumstances is there to redirect you and to literally force you to OPEN YOUR EYES and realise that it’s time to make a change.
It’s in moments like this that the struggle will either strengthen you and allow you to evolve…or continue to weigh you down until you realise it’s time to stop. Don’t let it get to the stage where you’re weighed down and you have no other positive prospects in front of you. If something doesn’t feel like it’s right for you, in whatever form that comes in, DON’T ignore it!
What have you learnt from your struggles?
Don’t be naive and think that something which challenges you isn’t an opportunity to learn from the situation. In any case where you feel like you’ve been done wrong by and you’ve failed, you’ve probably missed the entire lesson and most likely will find that you will face the same lesson and struggle again, and maybe with even more impact the next time it comes around.
By recognising the lesson you’ve learnt, you’re establishing a better relationship with yourself and therefore you are becoming a much more wiser, stronger and more resilient version of yourself.
Will you let it happen again?
Lessons learnt and understanding a struggle is one thing, but allowing it to happen again is a whole other situation.
In the past I’ve experienced some things, and often I’ve found myself right back in the same struggle that I was crying to get out of.
Being strengthened by a struggle isn’t just down to your ability to get through it, but most importantly your ability and strength to never return to it.
Apply the above questions to your own struggle and be honest with yourself.
Will you allow yourself to be defeated, or strengthened by your struggle?
As always, I’d like to end with a quote…
“The struggle you are in today, is developing the strength you need for tomorrow”